Yumiko
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Post by Yumiko on May 25, 2003 6:26:04 GMT -5
Sorry to troublue u guys and all but... this is what's been happening for the past few years.. I have got this friend, she's younger than me because she skipped a grade, she's really smart and talanted but she puts me down in public. for example: (say her name starts with J and Y is me) sorry if i'm copying u Fuuko ^^ for the format i'm using Y: (talking to japanese friend in japanese then talks to chinese friend in chinese) J: why can't u just stick to a NORMAL language? Like English?? Y: .....japanese and chinese is a normal language J: no it's not! it sounds like this! (starts making funny noises) It's really stupid!! Y: ...erm...yeah.. And she screams out to the whole world when I tell her something embarrasing, or if I tell her something that I didn't meant to tell her she makes a big deal about it. And one time I was listening to non-english music on my laptop in class (we carry laptops to school) she just pulled off the headphones plug, and music went blasthing through the classroom and starts teasing about me listeing to non-english music. And she's ALWAYS embarassing me in public....... any ideas how to make this stop?
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Post by Archangel_Dream on May 25, 2003 7:09:31 GMT -5
;; Does she even know you're becoming real hurt big time?? There are plenty of reasons why she could be doing this: ~ she might be jealous that you know a lot and she doesn't, so she disses it to make it "uncool" ~ she might be worried you're gonna be a weirdo and other ppl will make fun of (this is not a good pick, since you said she was already embarassing you...) ~ she doesn't know you're insulted. Maybe she's just teasing you or something. ~ is she having a problem in her own life, and just likes to make it better by having someone else suffer?? O.o Okay, take your pick. Any of them, talk to her first and say that she should respect your likes as you respect hers. Or even get her to try it--she might get into it too. If none works...I give up! But if you guys are friends, I'm sure can pull through. Good luck! ;D Man, sorry if you can't understand me...
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Fuuko
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Post by Fuuko on May 25, 2003 7:30:38 GMT -5
It's OK with the similar format, Yumi-chan ^^.
Let me see... it's OK to talk Japanese and Chinese to other people but it's a bit, y'know... to proud to be a Japanese/Chinese. However, this isn't a good reason for your friend to do such things.
I think she's just jealous because of you knowing more languages than she does. That's why she always tease you and blablabla. Or maybe because you're *cough* a bit naive (sorry) that she plays around with you.
If I were you, I'll definitely say... (it's kinda long)
"So what if I like other languages!? At least I'm not like you who only knows one language that she whines around and doesn't realize that I'm SMARTER cause I can't speak with many languages I want! Not some brat like you who only knows the lowest and easiest language like english!"
Erm... hope it works... ^_^
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 25, 2003 17:48:19 GMT -5
hmmm....not to offend you or anything, but your friend really is a total b*tch. what's wrong with talking in multi languages? sometimes i talk to my friends in chinese, because i find it easier to understand them in a different language! and it makes us feel closer when we talk in a common different language! and the part where your friend said japanese and chinese is abnormal, then what makes she think that english is so normal? what will she consider to be normal? there isn't really anything that's normal around here...everything and everyone is unique. if she wants to stay friends with you, then she has got to accept who you are. i personally never listen to any english music at all. everything i listen to is either japanese or chinese. nothing wrong with that right? *looks back at what i wrote* oh geez! sorry for talking like a bitch! but i don't really like your friend alot. hmm...maybe talk to her seriously about how you feel, and tell her to accept it or leave it. and if she continues to embarrass you publicly, then do the same back to her and let her feel how it feels it be embarrassed publicly. You definitely don't deserve this kind of attitude from this friend of yours, and if she refuses to change, then it proves that she's not worth your time. umm...hope it'll work...
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Post by MaCeR on May 25, 2003 18:08:28 GMT -5
I'm siding with chibi on this one(er except nicer terms)... there is absolutely no excuse for making fun of someone if they speak a different language. Just talk to her about it and if she can't accept the fact that you like to speak different languages then there is something wrong with her
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 25, 2003 21:08:20 GMT -5
lol...was my words really that bad?
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Post by M-Chan on May 25, 2003 21:35:44 GMT -5
talk to her and tell her your feelings, if that doesn't work and you absolutely cannot stand her DITCH HER... i'm sorry but if she can't respect you then she is no friend... i agree with wonton... one word that came to my mind.. bitch... i can't stand it when people do that which is probably why i'm a bit overreacting...
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 25, 2003 21:38:14 GMT -5
maybe there is hope for you friend...that is, if she still values your friendship...
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Post by Archangel_Dream on May 25, 2003 23:30:21 GMT -5
Man, I heard friendships can be hard and eccentric but I never imagined THIS!!
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 25, 2003 23:48:20 GMT -5
i personally don't see this as friendship at all...and if it was me, i would've just ditch her ages ago. but, the choice is yours, yumi-chan...
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Yumiko
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Post by Yumiko on May 26, 2003 1:29:20 GMT -5
Thanx u guys for helping me out ^^ well this *so call friend* she's filthy rich!! both her parents a doctors, she's malaysian immigrint but she can only speak english. None of her parents taught her how to speak it, and she even make rude comments about Asian life, like they way they talk etc... And she's like the smartest kid in year 9! And whenever some one beats her in like Music competition she cries, and make rude remarks about him/her And she absolutely loves putting me down in public! Like last time I put some foundation on my face...to cover up some yucky bits ;D. ( i don't do that anymore!!) I didn't put it on properly and the foundation kinda showed. And she, went screaming at the whole school!! "YOU'RE WEARING MAKEUP!!!" and when we played tennis she told this girl who I don't even know that well "She wears makeup to school!"
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Post by Archangel_Dream on May 26, 2003 1:37:37 GMT -5
Wow, it's really time for some serious action for that girl...
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 26, 2003 17:56:48 GMT -5
god, this so called friend of yours need some serious bitch slapping, and i mean it!! she is asian herself, and she still insults her own race!! kk, so what if she's the smartest in grade 9?? what gives her the right to put other people down just because they beaten her? i don't even do that, even if i don't get the highest grades!! yumi-chan, i don't think she's going to do you any good...so you better talk it out to her soon. i would hate to hear you tell me any more embarrassments that this girl had caused you!
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Post by M-Chan on May 26, 2003 21:19:52 GMT -5
DITCH HER!! good gawd.. you deserve better you got it? gawd... i wanna bitch slap her...
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Post by Chibiwonton on May 26, 2003 22:52:19 GMT -5
now now, myrn, it's yumi's decision right? (even though i would do the exact same thing myrn said! ARG) there MIGHT be hope for your friend, yumi. and if you can see that hope, then it's not too late for her to change into a better person
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